Tuesday, March 7, 2017

Dads and Makeup: Feeling Unsure How to Approach This Issue

No this post isn't about fathers wearing eyeliner. Although that probably would make for a pretty cool dad.

It's about my daughter. She's 13 and makeup is now interesting to her. At first, I had no idea what to do about this.

Physical appearance seems to be very important to young girls and it doesn't stop for women. Wherever we go, the media screams the lie, "Beauty makes you valuable." 

The truth is, we are more of a soul than we are a mere body to decorate. I want my daughters to understand that their bodies are only a temporary shell, not the measure of their significance. 

I have the privilege to be in a unique position to influence my girls--to present a different perspective on makeup and clothes. But if I do it all wrong, that opportunity slips away. 

A wise person once said, "Women should dress modestly, with decency and propriety...appropriate for women who profess to worship God" (I Timothy 2).

We've talked about it and decided to ease her into it by allowing another type of makeup added every 6 months. So she started with lip gloss on her 13th birthday. After 6 months rolls by, she gets to add light blush.

When her 14th birthday pops up, she can add mascara or foundation...I'll let her and her mom decide at that point what is needed most. 

At any rate, I figure by the time she gets to red lipstick or dark eye shadow she will be mature enough to have it enhance her beauty in a classy way with modesty, rather than making her look immodest. Because let's face it, too much makeup too soon sometimes sends the wrong message to boys.

But I must approach that reality with my girls carefully and tactfully. While I want them to understand the issue of boys and lust, I don't want her to feel all the weight of some boy's problem. It's his issue--his sin. Yet I still desire for her to care enough to be watchful of how she applies makeup or wears in public. There's a balance there.

But maybe I need to re-think this plan. Wisdom comes from many counselors and it often takes a village to raise a child. I'm open to some advice from you moms and dads out there. How did you handle the whole makeup ordeal? What worked? What didn't?


Written by Tez Brooks, author of The Single Dad Detour (Kregel).