Sunday, April 17, 2016

Helping Others

Single dad Jeff (name changed), is making a big pot roast for dinner. Last year he couldn't fry an egg. He had to learn to cook, clean and do laundry...all while working 30 hours a week.

Society has little understanding for custodial daddies. Try standing outside a ladies room while waiting for your daughter. You get all kinds of disapproving looks while you're wondering if your kid is ok in the bathroom alone.

When people see you eating out with your kids, chances are they assume you are just visiting your children for the weekend.

They have no idea you might have had to cut your hours at work to make sure you're home for dinner each night. And no one really cares.

Then there's the sexual temptation. A battle all to its own.

Men are just as broken by divorce as women but few believe this. Even fewer care. And if you are a widower, you have the grief factor to deal with on top of everything else.

Those of us who have survived and come out the other side could help a lot of these guys. Often we put it behind us and never talk about it. Its been almost 15 years since I was a single dad and some of my friends don't even know I was. That's sad...because it means I'm hiding and thus single dads don't even know they can come to me for advice or a shoulder.

How about you? Have you re-married and started another life? Are you hiding your past pain so that you don't have to help those going through it alone? It is after all, uncomfortable.

Okay single dads...those who are currently still single...what ways can we best help you to survive and come out of this a better man? Or maybe you have some gripes you need to unload....Comment below.