Friday, May 23, 2014

R U Praying 4 Your Kids?

Whether you have an antagonistic relationship with your children’s mother or it’s wonderful, there will be times when buttons are pushed and fires are lit that seem to dredge up all the godlessness inside you both. If you can’t find it in you to pray for your ex, at least pray for your child.

One of the greatest, most efficient things we can do to help our child recover from a broken family is to pray for them. Yet so often we fail to stop and do this. One thing I struggled with was praying specifically. So when I intercede, I make a point of praying for certain things, not general blanket requests.

There’s nothing more rewarding than seeing the Lord move in their lives as a result of prayer. So what should we pray for? Where do we start? How specific are we to pray? I’m hoping some of these specifics will help you.

·               Pray your child would listen to God’s voice and know his will for his or her life.

·               Pray your child develops discernment and wisdom to choose godly friends and steer clear from those who might harm or deceive him.

·               Pray your child would stay faithful to Christ until the end, love God’s Word, and love the church.

·               Ask the Lord to help your child stay sexually pure until marriage.

·               Pray for your child’s physical and emotional health during this difficult season of life.

·               Pray your child would be released from any feelings that he or she caused the divorce.

·               Ask for God’s favor to be poured over your child and to assign angels to protect him or her.

·               Pray for your child academically and socially.

·               Pray your child will honor and obey his mother, being a blessing to her.

The power of a father’s prayers is unbelievable. Prayer can be your child’s lifeline. Know your child. How can you pray if you have no idea what’s going on in his or her life? Talking to your children about their feelings can reveal much about how to best pray for your son or daughter. What issues cause you to fall to your knees?

Friday, May 9, 2014


So my wife and I decided this year to send my ex-wife a Mother's Day card. I usually don't. After all, it's not like we're best buds.

We just wanted to thank her for giving birth to  such great kids. (They are grown now). To thank her for all her sacrifice and hard work. It's the right thing to least once in a while.

What about you? Have you ever sent your ex a Mother's Day card? Should you?

If your kids are young, do you remind them to do something to honor their mom?

Keep Your Eyes on the Road

When I first found myself raising kids without a wife, it scared me. In survival mode I held on tight to the steering wheel and just drove. I didn't care where the road took me as long as I kept the car inside the lane markers. I understand how you might freak out. My friend, don't panic. Thousands of us dads have navigated this road before you. Single dads have traveled this path when all they had was a gravel road and a horse. We ride on their shoulders.Mistakes will be made; count on it. A glance from time to time at your dashboard might eliminate some problems if you can catch it quick enough. But it’s not the end of the world if you lose a belt. You just fix it and move on.
Still, sometimes we feel like mistakes are failures. We have this self-imposed pressure to appear invincible—refusing to admit (even to ourselves) we have weak areas in our lives. That can create some real problems for us super heroes.
For me, it’s not mistakes—stress is my nemesis. If something makes me angry I stuff it down and move forward. If something emotional or sad occurs, I try to be stoic. When my schedule is overbooked and I haven’t allowed enough cushion between major projects or deadlines, I keep going. After all, I can’t appear to be fragile. The problem is I begin to forget things, even mid-sentence. That's the first warning sign. If I continue neglecting myself, the stress shows up physically.
I used to get chest pain and run to the emergency room thinking I was having a heart attack, only to have the doctors tell me my heart was very healthy and my issues were stress related. I finally understood when I exercised and the symptoms went away. I felt wonderful. Today, with the help of my attentive wife, I’ve learned to discern stress, and I’m able to change course before it overcomes me.
Keeping ourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally healthy in the midst of stressors helps us with clearer decision-making skills when it comes to raising our children. Most of all, a robust spiritual condition ensures the Holy Spirit is clearly heard over all the noise this world and Satan throw at us fathers. First Timothy 4:8 says, “for while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come.”

Parenting alone is distracting. Sometimes you’re going to veer off the road God has for you—but there is grace. Place both hands on the wheel; keep heaven on the horizon and a prayer on your lips.
What most scares you about parenting after divorce?