Saturday, January 7, 2017

One Deadly Trap

My friend, Matt Haviland has a website A Father's Walk where he recently wrote a blog series about ten deadly traps. Matt addresses many things single dads need to be cautious of. 

One in particular I wanted to share with you...a reminder to lead our kids well. 


Ten Deadly Traps Single Fathers Fall Into: NOT LEADING THEIR CHILDREN

Wednesday, November 30, 2016

He Doesn't Want Me in His Life

It's been almost 2 years since we talked.

Thanksgiving came and went with no phone call or text from my son. He's in his late 20s so I'm finding it hard to continue lying to myself that he is just busy and forgot or doesn't know any better.

The only conclusion I can make is that he doesn't give a flip about a relationship with me. Maybe he never has.

He says he loves me but his actions don't match up. Words are cheap. I don't think he really knows what love is. I'm simultaneously angry and hurt and sad.

If he would just humble himself and contact me, I could show him what true love is. I'd take him in my arms like the father of the prodigal son in the Bible....put a ring on his finger and robe on his back.

I don't care that he's living with his girlfriend or doing drugs. I don't care that he isn't following God. I just want him to be in relationship with me, with his sisters who don't understand why he ignores them. They wonder what they did to make him step out of their lives.

I'm praying God turns his heart toward mine and back toward God. Will you pray with me?

Friday, October 28, 2016

Too Busy?

Rushing to and fro, working all day. 

Have a meeting over lunch, so I don't feel guilty about wasting time "just eating."

Talk on the phone while emailing someone else.

Use my hands-free cell phone while rushing home.

Walk the dog and jog at the same time so I can kill two birds with one stone.

Jump in the shower, scarf down some dinner.

Check email and phone messages.

Spend 30 minutes of quality time helping the kids with homework, 

Watch some TV to unwind, and drop into bed at 11PM! 

I feel like I've have accomplished much today. I might feel fulfilled and good about myself for being so efficient.

I wonder when do I get to be in silence and hear from God? 

What am I trying to medicate? What am I running from? Being too busy is the enemy of rest. 

Rest restores! Matthew 11:28 reminds us to "Come" to the author of rest. Are you weary in well doing? He will give us rest...but we gotta stop and wait for it. 

God help me meditate, not medicate!

Monday, October 24, 2016


FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE. October 23 2016: Orlando FL. The Florida Writers Association, Inc., (FWA) has announced that Tez Brooks of Orlando, FL won the prestigious Royal Palm Literary Award (RPLA). Brooks’ winning entry, The Single Dad Detour, won in the Informational/Educational category for Published Non-Fiction.
The award was announced at FWA’s recent four-day annual conference in Altamonte Springs, Florida. This annual competition, which received 479 submissions, was RPLA’s fifteenth.
“This is the most comprehensive and competitive RPLA we’ve ever had,” said Chris Coward, RPLA chairperson. “The RPLA administrative team, judges, and entrants all did an amazing job.”
In all, the competition covered 26 adult genres and 15 Youth genres, with published and unpublished entries considered separately. There were four grand awards, as well.
 “A win at any level can help a writer market their manuscript or published book, and the detailed feedback from the judges is invaluable for all entrants,” Ms. Coward said.
Brooks said, “I’m so humbled to be honored in a secular contest like this when The Single Dad Detour obviously contains a strong Christian worldview. There’s a lot of pressure for parent’s to be perfect. It’s my hope that single fathers everywhere will learn to laugh at themselves, find encouragement to keep going and know they’re not alone in their journey.”
The Florida Writers Association, 1,500 members strong and growing, is a nonprofit 501(c)(6) organization that supports the state’s established and emerging writers. Membership is open to the public.
The Royal Palm Literary Awards competition is a service of the Florida Writers Association established to recognize excellence in members’ published and unpublished works while providing objective and constructive written assessments for all entrants.
For additional information, visit the FWA website:, where you’ll also find more about RPLA and the complete list of 2016 winners. 

Friday, September 30, 2016

Orlando Book Signings


Orlando Public Library
101 E. Central Blvd.
Orlando, FL 32801
OCTOBER 16 at 2:00-4:00PM

Hilton Orlando
350 Northlake Blvd
Altamonte Springs, FL 32701
OCTOBER 22 at 3:30PM
(30 minutes only) 


Hilton Orlando
350 Northlake Blvd
Altamonte Springs, FL 32701
OCTOBER 23 at 9:00AM
(30 minutes only) 



Monday, August 22, 2016

What's Your Advice for Back to School?


Every year it seems to cost more and more money to get the kids ready for school. Pencils, notebooks, backpacks, uniforms and more. The list is outrageously long.

If your kids are in Jr High or Middle School you might as well save up for laptops and cell phones too--because the peer pressure is gonna filter back to you eventually. What's a single dad supposed to do? Especially if you're not getting support from your ex-spouse.

Then there's the extreme homework each night and the pressure to get involved in the PTSA, soccer games and more.

Maybe the opposite is true. Perhaps you're relieved to finally get some time to yourself for 6 hours. It's free babysitting really.

I'd like to hear from some of you dads...any advice for fathers on the brink of a melt down? Reply below and share your thoughts with the community.